Shattering Boy’s will be Boys

“But....but...there are no witnesses.”  Conservative mantra for centuries.  As a researcher/writer, when there are no primary documents you build a case based on collection of secondary information such as these distinct patterns.  That’s to prove a case.  What is before us is not to prove the case, but to decide a persons background of impartiality to serve as a judge in the highest court.  The evidence provided by Brett Kavanaugh, himself, at his last hearing is overwhelmingly against his capability to do the job. 

All men need to re-evaluate the behavior you feel forced to ignore, go along with, and at worst participate with.  Men/boys do things in numbers they would never do individually.  Why?  That unspoken need to fit in, that unspoken clan behavior that is out of control focused on doing nothing good that, unleashed, will focus on the non-participant if they don’t go along. Too many men fear for their egos damage at best or their lives at worst, in these situations.

We don’t discuss this enough to change the behavior.  It begins innocently with macho talk, sports, boosting, etc. escalating to areas unknown until it may be too late to escape.  This is the mantra of the gang.

I don’t engage anymore with anything that resembles this behavior very early on.  I walk away knowing I will be ostracized, yet learn to cherish my ability to self select who is worthy of my time and effort.  

We men need to do more to teach our boys how to navigate this mine field of pressure.