She's just not that into you!

I've been hesitant to write about the wave of accountability that has been passing through our planet, mainly because I wasn't sure why I didn't want to defend men.....as a man.  I think I know how to verbalize this now.

Men, all men, need to sit in this uncomfortable place of suspicion and exposure to the women's gaze of mistrust and anger.  Yeah, it sucks...yeah, you probably consider yourself a "good guy".  But, this scale has been severely tilted for a very long time....um...say...since the beginning of time.  Your uncomfortable???  Now who’s the cry baby.

People will loose their jobs...but...just think for once about how many women probably lost their jobs because they didn't "comply".  I can guarantee you the number is enormous!  It's time we really started listening to women, believe them until proven wrong...not the other way around.  The scale has been tipped for way too long, and it's time for a change.  I welcome it...it is uncomfortable for us all, but what we can gain from this change is a maturity of our gender.  Yes, maturity.  We have had an image problem, haven’t we?

We don't need to be snowflakes...emasculated..to do this...although...there is no way around being called this by the Neanderthals we will leave behind.  For many men sex and power are inseparable, and that's a problem.  You are not "weak" if you are respectful of women.  Do I need to repeat that?  Maybe we should repeat that OFTEN to our buddies and ourselves like a mantra...

We need to look to our past and see where we have followed the crowd, or downright did things, on our instincts, we knew wasn't right, out of anger or any other possible inexcusable reason.  "She's just not that into you"....what???  Remember the girly movie that you avoided or just watched it because your girlfriend or wife wanted to see it?  The message is a good one, but should be reversed.

We do have a propensity for anger and violence that is so easily switched on.  It's so easy to access for us.  Find the switch and work on handling it.  I have a lot of women to apologize to, yes....apologize.  We have such a great opportunity to heal our relationships with women.  I'm up to the challenge.....how about you?